it's dark but shiny shiny but far far but real real because it is
it's dark but shiny shiny but far far but real real because it is
baby girl, know that you are most loved little lady, know that you are competing for the love wonderful woman, know that you are giving love that's what makes you a mother, a mother of love, Happy Women's Day
smile at not what you want, smile at who you want, smile at how you want, smile at who you are...
“Motherhood is a great honor and privilege, yet it is also synonymous with servant hood. Every day women are called upon to selflessly meet the needs of their families. Whether they are awake at night nursing a baby, spending their time and money on less-than-grateful teenagers, or preparing meals, moms continuously put others before themselves.”
– Charles Stanley
Motherhood is a privilege indeed. Once upon a time, our grandmothers gave birth to children at home in whatever the circumstances and environment. So much has changed since then, all the way from infrastructure to science and medical advancements.
1900s was considered the natural birth decade. Then around 1910s came a treatment known as Twilight Sleep, which was a type of sedation, often detrimental because it usually killed both mother and child. By the 1920s doctors were getting experimental and started doing the procedure of dilating the cervix and removing the baby with the forceps. In the 1950s the fetal ultrasounds started mostly to see the medical health of the baby and not gender yet. But women were still faced with the discrediting of childbirth as a medical phenomenon and not a natural action. Then came the 1960s where the dispensing of antibiotics started post birth and monitoring of fetal health through systems became regular. But this was also the time the woman had the option to use the new invention, the birth control pill.
1970s saw the introduction of the Lamaze classes and the use of epidurals to relieve pain. Fast-forward to the 1990s and the knowing the gender started becoming the norm, while the removal of amniotic fluid with an injection to check fetal health also became popular. The C-section procedure became popular in the millennium.
Having a baby is the most beautiful gift you can have. While there is positivity there is also negativity. According to the international organization taking the lead on orphan care, HOPE EFFECT they say there are 153 million orphans worldwide and add that, according to UNICEF (The United Nations Children’s Emergency Fund), if orphans were a country of their own, the population would rank 9th in the world—ahead of Russia. Such is the natural dilemma that we are facing.
Let’s narrow down to how are we treating childbirth around us. There is much celebration and even extravagant baby showers. Yes celebration is a must; it is a miracle that has been given to us humans. The baby showers really depend on your social circle, expectations and standards. I recommend, go and feed hungry orphans and blanket them with your love and possessions. However where a mother who is pregnant and needs your help then don’t hold back.
For the men or fathers you must support your lovely partner throughout the journey as much as possible or be frank and just not have the baby. Be real. She may not want you in the delivery room, but she wants you in her life no matter what. A recent study in Kenya shows that women prefer not to have their male companions in the delivery room. This study focused more on the rural areas and this does bring to light the much-needed personal education required in the families across the country. If we want gender equality then we must address deeper issues such as childbirth. The baby is a creation by both and a responsibility by both.
so what if I didn't get flowers so what if the wine never came so what if the chocolates weren't there I have you
This May it will be one year to the opening of the Madaraka Express and it has seen almost 600,000 passengers and still counting.
The whole hype was fantastic and so far and journeys have been fun for those who have travelled on it. The Nairobi to Mombasa trip and versus has been successful and soon Nairobi to Naivasha will be launched.
The fares are meant to double this April and the protests have started. Rightfully so, since the Nairobi South Station is in Syokimau and access to it can cost you whether it is on matatu, taxi or private car. Thus, when you are doubling the economy fare and expecting the customer to also bear all those other costs it is unreasonable. To hike the fare within a year is unreasonable. A return first class ticket is 50% of a return airfare. Thus, they have the economic power to make the choice and larger groups can enjoy the reasonable fare and fun interaction during the journey.
For the average rider who prefers this ride to the bus, it is an unfair price increase. Also when they arrive in Mombasa they have further fares to pay to get to their final destination. At least a three years gap should been given. The most important service to get working like clockwork is the tickets booking, payments and information of the travel times. This needs to be as real time as possible and feedback as swift as possible. Fixing this key component will definitely sort out customer frustrations and discipline them to have faith in the system and depend on it for their travels. Hopefully even a last minute booking can be done, because Kenyan culture is very last minute. By winning the hearts of Kenyans with these small crucial efficiencies, the price hike will not seem unfair.
The security checks are superb and while the lines are long depending on busy season, you are assured of safety as much as possible. The main thing is to give a balance to this new technology and system because if the Madaraka Express can achieve this smoothly it will be the beginning for demand from the travellers to get better services for their daily commute. Every country faces hiccups when changing the infrastructure and this railway has been the biggest one since Independence. Let it not be the last one.
Let this railway be a learning platform for future engineers, architects and technicians, just a few skilled jobs that young Kenyans can aspire to have. Why should they watch a mega structure unfold on television when seeing it for themselves can inspire them? They need to know they can build something similar or bigger and better too. It is the vision the Government must aspire to create for them, only then our future has hope of be a fighter in the competitive African market, which is being exploited by “those who know better”.
“Ek tarfa pyar ki taqat hi kuch aur hoti hai … auron ke rishton ki tarah yeh do logon mein nahi bat’ti … sirf mera haq hai ispe”-
The power of one sided love is unique … it doesn’t get distributed into two, as it happens in the relationships of others … only my right is there on it- dialogue from Ae Dil Hai Mushkil
The beautiful day of Valentine’s Day is upon us once again. For some it is about loving their parents, children, grandparents, the Boss, teacher or that someone special. Whichever way you look at it, February has been marketed as the month of love, so sometimes whether you like it or not, you are duped into this lovely feeling.
The dialogue from Ae Dil Hai Mushkil may be too heavy for us, but it brings out the fact that there are also those silent lovers. Those one-sided lovers, those unrequited lovers, those waiting for love simply.
Then, what can be the colour of love?
Valentine’s Day tells us it should be red, after all the heart is red, the roses are red, the cakes are red velvet, the dress is red and so the list goes on.
For the shy, you can hide behind the red rose or that red velvet cake and express your message obviously and easily. For the vivacious they too can follow the same route and may go the step further (oops on their knees) and make the proposal with candles, music and the red carpet.
You need to figure out who you are in love. Are you in love? Have you been dumped? Are you getting a divorce or lost your special partner? Whatever the case, you must celebrate it with yourself. Whether it is hosting a black colour themed party for being dumped or break-up, white for loss or yellow for hopeful love. Just acknowledge your love on Valentine’s Day, give the universe some message.
There is no need to waste time, not loving others, for example appreciate your family, children or any special relative. Take them out and well, make the colours of your love like a rainbow, realizing each one’s strength’s and the smiles they gave you all year.
Love is now only remaining for the few romantics. Otherwise it has become more of instant pleasure by watching a short porn video on your phone via WhatsApp, or having a side affair, just because you can afford to. The true kind of love is rare, it is not appreciated anymore and while the Sanjay Leela Bhansali’s keep selling us unrequited love, we have much to learn about love. It is the materialistic needs of looking good and showing off in love that have taken precedent, and if you are not a part of this game, you look like the black sheep.
So love this time for you, and nobody else, the way you want and for the colour you want.